We love to blame somebody else.
Genesis 33:1-4 Then Jacob looked up and saw Esau coming with his 400 men. So he divided the children among Leah, Rachel, and his two servant wives. 2 He put the servant wives and their children at the front, Leah and her children next, and Rachel and Joseph last. 3 Then Jacob went on ahead. As he approached his brother, he bowed to the ground seven times before him. 4 Then Esau ran to meet him and embraced him, threw his arms around his neck, and kissed him. And they both wept.
For the first time in many years Jacob and Esau meet, it could have been an ugly situation but Esau met Jacob with open arms instead of bearing arms, Esau didn't allow his temper to end his relationship with his brother.
It's his fault! No he did it! There wasn't any of that, it was just like God welcoming the prodigal son back home in Luke 15, there is only joy, there isn't any bickering about the troubles of the past, there is nothing but the forgiveness that is necessary to continue the friendship. We love to go find the source of the problem and place blame anywhere we can, especially if it isn't our fault.
When I am hurt, I need to offer forgiveness in abundance because one of these days I am going to need forgiveness too.
Lord, help us to forgive even those that we feel do not deserve it.